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Yesterday we discussed how Perception Disorder is a condition that causes us to view ourselves as the center of the universe. Today, we discuss seven things to know about this addition, its disorder and how to move past it…

1. Perception Disorder is a progressive disease that compromises our quality of life. We all have it to varying degrees.

2. Severe, progressive Perception Disorder can lead to severe mental illness, such as addiction.

3. Addiction is a disease that wants to kill you. For this reason, abstinence is not recovery; it is only a prerequisite to recovery.

4. The underlying Perception Disorder was present before, and is exacerbated by, the abuse. Therefore, treating the Perception Disorder is imperative.

5. If you suffer from an advanced stage of Perception Disorder, such as addiction, then getting outside help to arrest the disease must be your sole priority.

6. Even if you find yourself completely down and out, perhaps hospitalized or incarcerated, don’t be discouraged. This may be your greatest opportunity to grow in a more meaningful way than would otherwise have been possible.

7. We can markedly improve our quality of life through simple techniques that arrest the damaging effects of our Perception Disorder.

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In a banner year where both a male and a female were vying for the White House, there is likely only one thing these two archrivals have in common: they each recognize the absolute power of a jacket. That’s right…a jacket.

A jacket is unquestionably the number one garment in the world that connotes authority. A jacket is synonymous with “business.” Even when influential leaders appear sans tie at casual conferences and meetings, it is likely that they will still wear jackets, aka, “power blazers.”

We live in a world where people are more likely to be judged based on how they look, rather than what they say. At least on first glance.  The upside is the more credible you appear, the more confident you feel.

“A jacket immediately introduces you and your intentions.”

And you don’t have to be a business professional to appreciate the unspoken clout of a jacket. A teacher who wants to set a standard of discipline on the first day of school will wear a jacket. A homemaker who plans to run for the School Board may want to wear a jacket when attending a meeting or luncheon. Anyone can appear more poised and self-assured simply by donning this third-layer piece.

A third-layer piece always finishes a look, no matter what the occasion. Consider these options for third–layer pieces, listed from most formal to most casual:

  • Traditional suit
  • Tailored blazer
  • Unstructured jacket or cardigan
  • Denim jacket
  • Hooded jacket (with workout clothes)

(Within each category, the darker the color, the more authoritative the look.)

Whether part of a suit or worn alone, jackets immediately set a commanding tone and give the impression of credibility.  It is highly recommended that one wear a jacket or suit when interviewing, requesting a pay raise, or simply giving an important presentation.

Never underestimate the power of the jacket. Throw a navy blazer in the back seat of your car, or hang it in your office. You never know when you may need your coat of armor.

By Sharon White + Janna Beatty
Photo by Gili Benita

Sharon White and Janna Beatty are co-authors of QUINTESSENTIAL STYLE: Cultivate and Communicate Your Signature Look. 

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According to a study by Harvard University, 80 percent of kids say their parents care more about their achievements and happiness than about whether they are being kind. Teaching children to be successful financially and learn good work ethic does not need to be exclusive of being kind though. All of these lessons can be integrated into a well-rounded learning experience by tying them everyday situations with kids. Kick things off on World Kindness Day, November 13th by following these tips from Gregg Murset, CEO of BusyKid.

  1. Reward your kids for acts of kindness. Give your kids a “job” of being nice. Ask them to do one kind act a week and have them tell you about it. Offer a small reward for the good behavior like extra time on digital devices or watching television. Or let your kids pick what to eat for dinner one night.
  1. Get involved in charities.It can be hard for kids to be excited about charities because many limit their availability to volunteer and most do not have income they can donate. Create chores your kids can do to earn money to donate to a charity of their choice.
  1. Encourage empathy. Offer to double the allowance your kids earn for doing chores around the house if they promise to use the extra money to help out a friend or stranger in a moment of need. Have kids use their own allowance money to pay for a drink, lunch, or breakfast for someone around you who looks like he or she is having a bad day. They could even surprise someone at the movies with a bucket of popcorn.
  1. Give your kids chores. Assigning chores to your kids not only teaches them responsibility and work ethic it also teaches teamwork. By giving your kids jobs to do at home, you will be teaching them that helping out keeps your home more organized and creates more time for everyone to relax and have fun together. By teaching your kids how to help out you can also encourage them to take on jobs they weren’t assigned just because they notice they need to be done or because they want to help another family member finish their work faster.

What’s BusyKid? Formerly known as My Job Chart, BusyKid.com is the first mobile-website that helps parents teach children about work ethic, responsibility, accountability and managing real money.  Even though the website lets kids learn real life lessons surrounding earning and spending money, it also encourages strong character traits, good behavior and supporting charitable organizations.

Photo by Danielle MacInnes

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Regardless of whom you voted for today, in the 2016 Presidential election, there is one thing we all can agree on. It was stressful! For the past year people have been heated on social media, blocking and un-friending those on “the other side.” Families have been arguing. Spouses have been at odds. Tomorrow, when the election is over, one side will feel the stress associated with the loss. We spoke with Dr. Sanam Hafeez, NYC based licensed clinical psychologist, teaching faculty member at the prestigious Columbia University Teacher’s College and the founder and Clinical Director of Comprehensive Consultation Psychological Services, who shares the signs of Post Election Stress Disorder and what to do about it.

  1. Your stomach is in knots!

According to Dr. Hafeez, stressing out about the future of our country can certainly manifest in physical discomfort. When you ruminate about the worst-case scenario it can lead to stomach tension, nausea and lack of appetite. She advises to take a break from news coverage and discussing the election results. “You want to be informed but YOU want to be in control of the news you are seeking out. Select one media outlet that you want to get your news from. Check in the morning and then focus on what you have to do that day.”

  1. You can’t focus!

Your mind wanders and you keep worrying about the next 4 years of your life. These wandering thoughts lead to a lack of focus. Dr. Hafeez explains that when we are fixated on a thought and are in a state of worry, it is difficult to give full attention to anything else. Her advice, “go for a 30 minute walk, exercise, meditate by lying still focusing on your breath, color in a coloring book or get a ball and have a catch. You want to choose tasks that are repetitive, pleasurable, calming and don’t require a lot of focus.”

  1. You can’t sleep!

You’re tossing and turning and can’t seem to get to that deep level of sleep. “This is a true sign of anxiety and stress,” flags Dr. Hafeez. Sleep is when our bodies turn over cells, fight off illness and are fully relaxed. When stress disturbs sleep for a prolonged period of time, it can lead to a slew of illnesses including, depression and mental illness, heart disease, kidney disease and diabetes.  “Avoid watching the news before bed as it can evoke worry and negative thoughts. Get into the practice of writing down all the things you appreciated that day so you calm down and drift off on a positive note.”

  1. You’re snippy with everyone!

You feel on edge and angry. Anything can set you off. Your cell phone doesn’t work and you throw it across the room. You’re screaming in traffic. You’re irritable at work and prefer the door to your office closed so you can avoid everyone. Dr. Hafeez explains that it is normal to have a short fuse when stressed. Unfortunately the people we love the most get the fallout from our stress. “Put yourself in a ‘time out.’ Notice what is setting you off and avoid it for a day or two. Book a spa massage, take a long bath, pamper yourself, cash in on some well needed ‘me time.’ Within hours your mood will shift, “offers Dr. Hafeez.

  1. You’re not in the mood for love.

When stressed it’s common for sexual desire to wane. When your mind is on other things the last thing you want to do is get romantic. According to Dr. Hafeez starting off with sensual touch is calming. “Simply being in the bed holding hands breathing for 2 minutes can work wonders. Don’t rule out sex, ease into it. Avoiding sex only adds another thing to be stressed about and sex is a stress reliever. You need those feel good brain chemicals to beat the stress,” she reminds us.

So try not to be bummed out and stressed out if your candidate didn’t nab the presidency. Things could be far worse. YOU could be President of the United States. Now THAT is something to be stressed about.