Have you ever experienced fear, insecurity and self-doubt? I know I have; as well as the majority of all adults around the world. Did you know these emotions are the biggest obstacles many of us face in life? And, in order to overcome this negativity, many turn to unhealthy behaviors, such as overeating or alcohol abuse.
“Compulsive or addictive behavior may temporarily numb negativity, but it won’t put you on a healthy and wholesome path,” says Darlene Hunter, a renowned speaker and author of Win-Ability, Navigating through Life’s Challenges with a Winning Attitude.
“While some people buy very expensive things to feel more confident, there’s an affordable way to yield the same result: positive thinking.”
The power of positive thinking has been well publicized. Recently, the Dove beauty experiment, in which women wore a “beauty patch,” yielded multiple positive behaviors. Positive thinking gained scientific credibility in 1985 when Michael F. Scheier and Charles S. Carver published their seminal study, “Optimism, Coping, and Health: Assessment and Implications of Generalized Outcome Expectancies.” Since then, hundreds of academic papers have been published in support of positive thinking.
Despite its popularity, raves and reviews flooding our world, why isn’t positive thinking sinking in? “Confidence starts with your attitude; expensive purchases aren’t required,” says Hunter, who maps a path supporting the living-with-confidence lifestyle. “Do what you love doing. What is that thing you love doing? At the end of the day, would you miss doing it if you could never do it again?”
We agree with Hunter; everyone gets a great sense of accomplishment and joy when they do what they love doing or, were born to do. It could be baking, cooking, taking care of children, gardening, writing, drawing, dancing, anything at all that brings happiness as you travel through life.
So… perhaps it’s not the absence of positive thinking that lacks in our lives, but rather the absence of love?
What would it look like if you pursued your passion? Your passion is what you will do even if you do not get paid for it. Following your passion allows you to gain skills in areas where you are already strong, and best of all, it will push you to become better. Once you discover what you are passionate about, it generally connects with your purpose.
Hunter asks: Are you true to yourself? Do not set your career path in a certain direction based on what your friends or family members want for you. If you dream it, you can live it. Do not let fear turn you around. It is also important to be honest about your resources, skills and abilities. Do not think you have all of the answers; be open to suggestions and advice from others who have walked before you.
Hunter concludes with: Stay the course. Be resilient. Never give up. No matter what you might be facing at the current time or the challenges that are ahead, as you move forward in your quest to accomplish your goals and dreams, you must stay the course. As you set forth to achieve your goals and your dreams, you cannot be thin-skinned. You must be durable, strong with a determined that you will get to where you want to go. Quitting is not an option and failure is not a word that you should use when you are seeking to reach your goals and dreams.