Winnie the Pooh: “If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart… I’ll stay there forever.”
Dr. Elaine: “And let me remember, through and through, these three little words “I love you”
As working women, our own health and well-being are paramount to our everyday success. Each day that we wake up and smell the flowers, or the brew of fresh coffee, (or in my case chamomile tea), and see the sunrise or the sunset, we get to be grateful for another day.
As an Amazon best-selling author of 7 Strategies for Raising, Calm, Inspired, & Successful Children, and a communication specialist, a nugget of coaching information is to look at the words you are using in your daily lives, in your business, with your family, or at the corner store. Words can elevate you or bring you down. Words have started wars or have ended them.
By using your gift of communication, you can alter your neurochemistry that affects your mental, physical and spiritual health.
Three simple words “I love you” can make you whole when you are feeling down trodden. “I love you” can set your heart beating, and pounding like the rhythm of a thousand drums, and saying “I love you” can melt the hearts of adults and children, alike. Hearing someone say to you “I love you” can make you believe in humankind and yourself, again. When you are feeling alone, hearing the words “I love you” can make you feel, you are worthy. You are special. You are appreciated. You are respected. You are wanted. You are divinely connected. You are loveable! You are loved!
The importance of saying “I love you” is a way to acknowledge all you have to give to others and to yourself. It is a blessing. The harmonics of “I love you” are enmeshed in your brain which can bring you visions of when you were younger and your mother or dad would hold you on their lap and lovingly looking at you say, “I love you!” and a sense of belonging and value came over you.
The English language has more synonyms per word than are found in any other language. Yet, so many people have deficiencies in ways to express love. Saying “I love you” in any language means so much more than the sounds that make up the phrase. These three little words can make you feel upbeat when you are down, can make you feel connected when you are feeling isolated, can make you feel warm and fuzzy all over when you are feeling unwanted, or unsure of yourself.
Try these little “I Love You” Tips throughout the day to set your neuro-transmitters on a sound footing, and light up your brain cells and warm up your heart, for as much as you benefit from being told that you are loved, you reap the benefits by telling others that you love them, too.
Self-Affirmation: Each morning before you head out your bedroom door to face your kids, or your significant other, or exit your front door and head out to work, look yourself in the mirror and affirm, “I love myself so much!” This is not to be a selfish statement, rather it is to acknowledge your own worthiness. Say” I love myself so much” three times, with conviction, looking yourself in the mirror, and then say thank you, three times, to acknowledge your affirmation. Remember, that it is important to love yourself, before you can truly love others. “To say I love you, one must first know how to say the ‘I'”said Ayn Rand.
Affirmation to Significant Others: When you see your significant other, and/or family members, say good morning and “I Love You!” Watch the people in your household, smile, and light up as they say “I Love You!” back to you. Sense this connection throughout the day. “Immature love says I love you because I need you. Mature love says I need you because I love you,” said Erich Fromm.
Offer a little hug, too, Ask permission to offer a hug, which increases endorphins and lowers cortisol, the stress hormone in addition to your “I Love You” mantra.
Affirmation to your pet: For those who have pets, each day remember to tell your pet, “I Love You!” For many, it is easier to say “I Love You” to a pet than it is to say “I Love You” to a person).
Affirmation of Love as Gratitude: For those who do not have any pets, saying aloud, “I Love You” (with conviction and joy), as you look at a photograph of those you love, or look around your home and acknowledge your gratitude for all of your blessings, can increase your endorphin levels, too.
Whether you say “Jet’aime”, “Te quiero”, “Jag älskar dig” or “I love you,” the importance of saying “I love you” as a daily affirmation to yourself, or saying these words to others, alters the neurochemical reaction that affects your mental, physical and spiritual health.
Make the connection between your heart and your words and feel free to express those words to those you love. Sometimes people hold back and wait until they feel safe to say “I love you.” People may feel vulnerable when they are saying “I love you,” and become afraid that others will see their “softer side.” Acknowledging your feelings for another person is soul satisfying and something that may set the stage for others to tell you how much they love you, too!
As Friedrich Nietzsche said, “We love life, not because we are used to living, but because we are used to loving. Saying “I love you” continues the flow of life, and makes us know we are alive, and united in a power greater than ourselves.