‘Tis the season to be jolly, but the fact is the holidays and New Year bring more stress into our lives, and actually… into your man’s life. A Canadian study showed that men take stress harder than women and it indicates that women perform better in the face of stress.
In another study of more than 24,000 adults, men who had high demand and low control in their jobs or had job insecurity were more likely to have had major depression. Another survey, conducted by life insurance company Aviva USA and the Mayo Clinic, shows that finances are the biggest source of stress for men; 62 percent. Overall, the study shows that men’s five biggest stressors are:
- Family + Relationships
- Job Stability
- Fast Pace of Life
During the holidays, numbers 1, 2 and 4 are all arguably heightened. Simon Rego of the Montfiore Center/Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York says that gender differences regarding the effects of stress manifest themselves in other negative ways. “Men under stress are more likely than women to report having been diagnosed with high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, and heart disease or heart attack,” he says.
Dr. Michael Trombley, Medical Director of the Physicians ED Centers says each of those health risks effect one more key element of a man’s life which is actually a stress reducer. Yes, you guessed it… sex.
“Stress is one of the primary causes of bedroom performance issues and is a leading factor in the increase of that compounds stress,” explains Trombley, who specializes in men’s heath.
Trombley has some stress relieving tips that men usually don’t think about, yet they could help them during the holidays, and in the bedroom…
He suggests to laugh more, “take advantage of the holiday time around friends and family.” He adds, “Confidently assert yourself. Face it, some of those family members are going to push your buttons over how to carve the turkey or how to hang the decorations in your own house. Don’t let that drag you. If you assert yourself early, it cuts off that behavior and gives you a boost of confidence.”
Trombley believes that yoga helps an individual focus on themselves, plus he adds, “[yoga] teaches you how to manage when your blood boils waiting five hours in a line at a toy store to pick-up your child’s holiday gift.”
How about the practice letting go? “Making a conscious choice not to become angry or upset; effective anger management is a tried-and-true stress reducer.”
Speaking slowly is another strategy. “This one seems silly but connects with the stress studies that include fast-paced lifestyles. Slowing your speech helps you better handle those stressful moments.”
Lastly, we certainly cannot forget the importance of sleep, eating right, staying hydrated and exercise. If we want to ‘tis the season with glee; it’s time to help the special men in our lives by encouraging them to practice these stress-busting strategies, and perhaps it’s time to book him a spa appointment. Hmm… a spa appointment: the perfect New Year’s gift, indeed.